Social media doesn’t have to suck the life out of you; and if it is, you’re probably doing it wrong.
But it doesn’t have to.
We can carefully create a bubble of coziness if we choose to do so.
Here’s how to do it:
Unfollow People Who Make You Feel Bad About Yourself
Sometimes people with the best of intentions spark something in us that brings us down. As soon as you see a post that brings bad feelings up inside of you, unfollow them! Yes, that may mean you have to unfollow your sister-in-law or your coworker, but consider the alternative: low self-esteem, unhappiness, anxiety. What would you rather have? I’ll let you decide for yourself.
I don’t know about you, but those perfectly curated accounts— color-schemed and all— infuriate me. It’s just not REAL. There’s nothing wrong with beautiful pictures. I love them. But when every single picture is a gorgeous and spotless home, perfectly dressed children, or a smoothie bowl with edible flowers… there has to be something missing. Accounts like these may be totally fine for you, but I can’t follow them because they skew my perception of reality.
Discover the posts that bring you down or skew your perception of reality and give you false expectations and have the courage to unfollow them!
That said, start to become curious about the posts that cause insecurity to burst inside of you. Why may that be? Is there something you’re missing in your life that you haven’t explored? Negative feelings can provide valuable insight into our minds, emotions, and lives if we explore what they mean to us.
Follow People Who Make You Feel Good About Yourself
There are so many incredibly uplifting and self-esteem boosting on social media. Many people have noticed the detrimental effects of social media and have decided to actively combat that by sharing goodness. These are the accounts you want to follow.
Do you adore dogs or cats? Follow accounts with adorable pictures of them! Do you love music? Follow your favorite musician’s accounts? Do you struggle with body positivity? Follow accounts that combat the diet industry and negative self-talk.
Once you clear your social media feed of posts that bring up ill feelings inside of you and fill it with posts that bring you joy, social media will energize you!
As I scroll through my social media feed right this second, I see pictures of my good friend’s adorable children whom I adore, a body positive quote, and a quote from one of my church leaders. It gives me energy and brings me joy!
Here are some of my favorite accounts to follow on Instagram:
- Tony Glausi @tonyglausi (for obvious reasons & music updates)
- The Real Life RD @thereallife_rd (for intuitive eating inspiration)
- Evynne Hollens @evynnehollens (for music & family fun)
- The Mormon Daily @mormondaily (for inspirational quotes)
Examine Your Own Posts
I’m a firm believer that life is hard for everyone and while it’s perfectly awesome and healthy to share highlights on social media, it’s also great to share what’s not so great. Or to provide background to a picture that may look “perfect.” The more authentic and true to ourselves we can be on social media the better. Share your passions and successes, but also share your failures and questions. The more vulnerable we can be, the better we can connect with others and inspire them to live fulfilling lives.
I know I’m guilty of falling in the trap of trying too hard on social media. I’ve recently decided to stop trying and to simply live. I don’t really care if my blog is as successful as the next guy’s because I don’t spend hours a day curating color-schemed content only to make people feel badly about themselves. By intermingling real-life posts with exciting news, I hope my social media use can provide encouragement and joy to people’s lives. I want to be a voice of goodness in a whole world of negativity and self-loathing.
I’ve considered deleting all of my social media accounts and only posting updates on this blog for friends and family who care. But social media is where our world is at. Social media is fantastic for networking, opening my mind to varying points of view, and finding out about events. I love those things. I can either embrace it and make good out of it or I can let it destroy me. I’ve decided to spend as little time as possible on social media and make the little time I do spend on it as meaningful as possible by doing the steps I outlined above.
If you relate to me at all and feel like social media is sucking the life out of you, consider curating your feeds to uplift and inspire you.
Have a lovely Wednesday!